Why can't anything better happen to us than a fight?

In all situations listed above, at least one of the two children leaves the room in frustration. But let's ask them why they want the orange in the first place: “I'm thirsty, I want to make orange juice,” says Mo. “I wanted to bake cookies and I need the peel for that,” replies Miriam.

Cool, by asking her why, we've even learned more about the children's needs and are now looking forward to cookies!

Of course, not all conflicts are so easy to resolve, but we at the Frauenkirche celebrate conflict resolution because our architecture demonstrates the beauty that can arise from a well-managed dispute.

The discussion about the reconstruction of the Frauenkirche has prompted the city to exchange ideas, to communicate with each other. We attempt to discover why the ruins are so important to some - after all, what happened and the terrible violence cannot and should not simply be whitewashed over - and why a rebuilt church is important to others - after all, it is precisely reconstruction that gives hope that peace is possible again, even with all the wounds that war had inflicted back in the time.

The architect and master builder Eberhard Burger incorporated both aspects of the old and new. The dark stones on the outer façade and the majority of the altar are reminiscent of the fire of 1945 and the horrors of the Second World War.

If you turn to the right inside the main church, you will also see the old tower cross that was salvaged from the rubble in 1993. If you wish, you can light a candle here for a conflict that matters to you and pray for peace.

Despite the elements from the past, the Frauenkirche is still dominated by light. The golden altar can be seen from almost every angle. Even the painting uses shading to suggest that the altar fills the entire room with light. This is intended to symbolize the light of God.

Arguing is exhausting and requires a lot of effort, honesty and courage. However, as you can just have seen with your own eyes, a good argument can even help to ensure that the end result takes into account the needs of both sides and is even better than initially expected. Sometimes you have to get creative.

If you now go into the lower church, you will come to a hidden room in one of the vaults - the room of decision. Here, the artist Michael Schönholtz has vividly depicted the choice we face in every conflict: do we try to get what we want by all means? Or do we approach each other openly and are we prepared to change our positions if other paths open up?

Can you remember the last time you changed your mind? Why?

The room can also stand for many other decisions. What questions come to mind when you stand between the stones?